After I wrote my blog post about being a good child to your parents, my father (as usual) carried the matter on his head and wrote a really long comment about what parents want from their children. I have decided to make his comment a blog post since I’ve asked him to send me something to publish, but he says he has no time (although he has time to write long comments).
Without further ado, here is the comment. I know, I know, you could have read it yourself, but why not make it a post if I can!
BEING A GOOD CHILD
This subject is very large as divergent views are always shed whenever it pops up for consummate discourse. In the Old Testament, many decadent children of God barely saw their biological parents as ‘they are there’! There is little or no record of how Cain and Abel related to their parents. But we learn a lot about their sacrifices to God. Most family members offered their sacrifices directly to God as soon as they became of age.
Even when Noah built the great Ark, not much is known about the role played by his own children. At the building of the Tower of Babel, no particular family owned up the project. Both projects were communal.
Yes. At the time of Abraham, his elder son, Ishmael, whom he drove out with the mother at infancy, rarely referred to him for anything. Real and remarkable father-child relationship was greatly enunciated between Abraham and Isaac. Isaac obeyed his father so greatly. He tended the flock at a tender age. He fattened the rams and goats without complaint. He carried the firewood meant for sacrifice to God, surprising, in the bush, albeit knowing that he, indeed, would be sacrificed. Even if he had doubts in his mind, he seldom could confront his dad rudely but subtly asked ‘…but where is the ram?’
Jacob and Esau loved their parents very well. Even at old age their father still knew that his children loved him and cared for him ‘….here is the voice of Jacob and the hand of Esau…'(recall the full story). Many other children in the Bible also cared for and loved their parents in various ways.
Jesus did not really give much to his earthly parents, Joseph and Blessed Mary but was wont to subject himself to their guidance ‘..where have you been… we have been looking for you…”. “…do you not know …I am in my father’s house…'(recall this encounter). He obeyed them.
Being a good child transcends pouring of gifts and writing of letters and message at quick succession.
Parents’ prayers are normally for their children to attain higher heights than them, become more famous, better educated and travelled, establish good families, in turn, be heard and noticed in honourable endeavours, keep up the family’s good name and image, be good ambassadors everywhere they find themselves.
Real good parents do not pray for their children to come back and feed them, even at old age; build houses for them; buy cars for them. No. But to say sweet words to them, no matter after how long. As little as merely saying ‘…..daddy/mummy thank you for bringing me up…’ , just being grateful, is oftentimes, enough for most parents.
So children, loose no sleep if you genuinely cannot afford any thing, in the eyes of Man, for your parents. But always, just say, ‘thanks you’ to them for everything, at your slighted opportune time. God in His infinite mercy made you pass through this world through them!
What a wonderful topic, Alheri.
That’s it for today friends! I hope you enjoyed.