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Detach yourself, no one owes you anything.

No one owes you anything. The sooner you know that, the better for you.

I have learnt this lesson over time, as I left my parents’ home (as many of you) quite early on. To a large extent, I have developed independently of my parents. But only to an extent.

Just an aside. One of the Hausa words for Holy Spirit is “the gossip”. Haha. But think about it though, the Spirit of God is a Gossip. If you’re close to God, He tells you things that you ordinarily shouldn’t know about. He ensures that you always are one step ahead of your competitors, and that you have all the information that you need, whether it is “classified” or not. So yeah, aside from my closeness with my parents, my mother especially, I believe that the Holy Spirit tells her some of my classified information!

That said, my mother and father do not owe me anything, especially now that I am over 21, an adult in all ramifications.

Chances are, your parents or guardians have sacrificed an arm and a leg for you to get the education that you have.

Even if they were not there for you, per se, that’s not an excuse. Don’t get me wrong, I too have been failed by my parents on some counts, and there are things about them that I wish I could change. But that’s not an excuse. I don’t believe it when people say that they wouldn’t change anything about their past, I think that life always could have been better. And you don’t have to suffer to have come to anything, not resilient, not hardworking, not determined. True, difficulty brings out some of those things, but it is not absolutely necessary. Please feel free to disagree with me in the comments (or personal message).

In the same vein, your friends do not owe you anything. We are all in this world trying to get better. We’re each fighting our own battles, so when you lay your problems on your friends’ shoulders, remember that they too, have their own struggles and troubles.

When you let go of your expectations of other people, you really focus on the one person that deserves all your expectation.

Okay, really, there are two people who owe you something: God and yourself.

Technically, God has given you all that He owes you. He has given His life that you may have eternal life. So what else do you want? Really? 😀

You owe yourself everything. You owe it to yourself to make use of the things that have been given to you in this life. You owe it to yourself to protect your salvation with fear and trembling. If there’s anything that has been holding you back, let it go. You owe it to yourself to live your fullest, most joyful, most exciting life.

It has nothing to do with how much you have, although it’s nice to have things. It’s nice to afford a few luxuries in life, but it’s only by your own doing that you’ll get to where you want to be.

Doubt it? At the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus felt abandoned by His friends. At the cross, He felt abandoned by His Father, the one who is the definition of Love. The one who sent His son to pay the ultimate sacrifice.

There are times when, just like Jesus, you will feel alone. You will feel lonely. You will feel abandoned. Thankfully, you’ll never be abandoned by God because Jesus already went through that so that we don’t have to.

Whatever you want in this life, fight for it on your knees. I know that I am who I am because of my mother’s prayers. But even if I lose my parents today (my worst nightmare), that’s not the end of my life. I will have to keep moving. And I will move only by fixing my eyes on Jesus.

This does not mean that we should ignore all the kind people who have paved a way for us in life. Ingratitude is the mother of all sins. Adam and Eve were ungrateful for the much that they had in the garden, hence they fell to the serpent’s temptation.

Be grateful for every single, little thing you’re given by people. In fact, this is the secret to gratitude. When you feel entitled, you won’t be grateful.

Break free. Shake off the shackles of dependency. Get on your knees and win your battles. Pray for yourself. Pray for yourself. Pray. For. Yourself. Burn the midnight candle. Think of ways to make life better for yourself. It’s those who fight who win. Those who remain in the comfort of another’s protection seldom need to fight, and seldom encounter victory. Don’t depend on mother, father, siblings, or friends.

Jesus is the only hope you have. Fix your eyes on Him and do the needful.

Walk away like I’m doing in this lovely picture! 😀 😀 😀

Alheri Walk Away

Forgive the dirty jeans, I had just been sitting down on the ground. 

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Hey, my name is Alheri and I'm obsessed with Jesus. This blog is me keeping my promise to Him for answering a prayer. Purple is my favorite color and my favorite scripture is Jeremiah 32:27 which says "Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh: is there anything too hard for me?" (KJV) You can contact me at


  1. Couldn’t it be that “Think of ways to make life better for yourself.” on itself is selfish?
    I think it could be more elegant if you add: “So you can make it better for others.”


    • Pretty much saying the same thing- If you read my statement in context, you making life easier for yourself by yourself makes it easier for others. Makes sense 🙂


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  5. I don’t know who you are and it may sound cliché (it always does lol) but i needed this message. This is definitely one of the top 3 posts i’ve read this year and I genuinely feel like God wanted me to see this. Thank you so much. God bless you.


  6. Tim says

    OK I am back as promised. This post really struck major chords within. I could already relate from the first line ” No one owes you anything “. I am only just beginning to realize how true that is. It’s only now that I have started to see how much responsiblilty I have towards myself. I really think everyone else has their own concerns to tackle anyway and so they hardly feel obliged to be bothered by ours. We can’t really blame them too..This world has a lot of curve balls for every one to deal with . So it’s only God that can actually help one to keep afloat.
    One thing i gained from this post is to be diligent and to lean on God at first same time.

    Oh yeah and to be grateful as well. I only pray that God continues to help us stay grateful for all his blessings .

    Well done.x


    • Thank you for your insight Tim. I think it’s a good lesson to learn, but it’s also very difficult, especially when you’re genuinely there for people. It’s only natural for you to expect the same thing from them.


  7. Tim says

    This is an incredibly powerful piece. I read it in a rush and just had to comment. I will back for a more robust expression of my thoughts. I still have to read it over again and again This post is such a blessing.


  8. Nicole says

    Amen Alheri! May The Holt Spirit continue to pour into you!!! Amen!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾


  9. God is using you mightily, I am not sure if you know this! I just had to re-echo the fact that you are God’s vessel ❤


    • Looool! I’m not sure I know this myself, I’m just trying my best to be obedient to Him haha! ❤ ❤ ❤


  10. when i think about how my GPA and all the prayers I have prayed for a better semester and how by all means, I still do not get good grades, I wonder if God ever listened. But then, something hits me and makes me realize that even with my bad grades, I still can go on to the next level in my course, I remember the hearty breakfast I have on a daily basis, the bi weekly pay check. That’s when I know that even when I think God is not listening, he really is doing some other things for me. There is really no reason to be ungrateful.
    Your words are wisdom and I pray that God continues to guide and provide for you immensely!
    Happy Sunday!


    • I’m so glad you shared this, because it’s something that I struggled with for a while. But the best place to start from is with a grateful heart, just as you have. There’s nothing better than being grateful for what you have, while striving for bigger and better things. Thank you for sharing, once again.


  11. Amara says

    This is exactly what I needed to hear at this point in my life. Thank you Alheri ❤


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