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Three of the Ways I Am Creating My Dream Woman

Something changed within me when I turned 20. It was the dawning of a new decade- one that may very well witness several milestones in my life- graduation from college, my first full time job, marriage, and children. I thought long and hard about the woman I want to be ten years from now, and suffice to so say that I came up with a pretty impressive list (by my own standards)

  1. A woman after God’s own Heart- My Christian faith is the most important facet of my life, although nowadays, I have to think harder about this proclamation, with regards to the present political climate of Nigeria. The political leaders who steal money are the largest donors in their respective churches. Those who practice jungle justice, and strip young women naked in the streets are members of the Youth Ministries in their Churches. Even the high way robber will tell you that God revealed to him that you are his destiny helper, and that he is merely doing you a favor. Notwithstanding, my faith remains the most important facet in my life; take my family, take my friends, heck, take everything I have, but you cannot touch my Jesus.

Over the past few months, I have taken very specific steps towards improving my spiritual walk with The Lord. I have done a 40 days fast where I only ate between 6pm and midnight (I only broke twice- once when I was cooking with my friends, and mistakenly tasted the food. And another day when I was doing a photo shoot and had to pretend-eat). I bought a one-year Bible that I have been reading on-and-off in the last few months. I haven’t been too hard on that because sometimes, I just want to listen to a sermon online, or spend time in prayer.

I must say though, that I believe that I am on an upward trajectory. Let’s see how this goes, after all,  Prophet Ezekiel whom God used to raise an entire army of dead bones was a man with flesh and blood like me. Anyway, to the faithful, God shows himself faithful.

  1. Intentional Activities- My dream woman is ambitious, and the world is for her taking. A few weeks ago, I stumbled upon Akan Nelson’s website and I was blown away. Like me, he is a graduate of the African Leadership Academy, but he is evidently a man on a mission! Akan is very much taking his career into his own hands. From a professional website, experiences to boot, and confidence for the whole of Akwa-Ibom state (or is he from Cross-River state?), Akan is one young man to watch out for. That said, I began to think about how I am building my own career. Beyond my education and career, I want to be a youth minister, and the best time to work towards that is now. Hence, this blog. This, too, is a discussion for another day.
  1. Shunning Fear- I had a conversation with Priscilla, (random fact- I can trust her with my life). She blogs here, and I am perhaps her most religious follower. I was explaining to her that I kept feeling a calling on my heart to start a blog, and in the long run, a Christian web series. After lamenting for some minutes, she asked me, ‘So why have you not started yet?’ I immediately launched into very deep thought. I realised that it wasn’t about laziness, or about a dearth or resources. I was afraid- what if nobody reads my blog, what if I lose hope, what if I get lazy. That day, I received a lecture from Priscilla, and long story short, my 2015 mantra has become ‘Just Do it’.

These are a few of the qualities of my dream woman. I shall cover other areas of her life as time goes by. Do I see myself becoming her- well, yes!

I suggest you also create a vision of your dream man/ woman/ everything in between. Work doggedly towards your goal, and come next year, we shall compare notes!

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Hey, my name is Alheri and I'm obsessed with Jesus. This blog is me keeping my promise to Him for answering a prayer. Purple is my favorite color and my favorite scripture is Jeremiah 32:27 which says "Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh: is there anything too hard for me?" (KJV) You can contact me at


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  5. Rosie says

    Thank you so much for sharing this! 🙂 3 wonderful steps that i’m sure many people can resonate with,me included, i love it. Come next year we shall compare notes


  6. I’m glad I stumbled upon this. I’m just here smiling. 😊😊 “All things are possible to him who believes”


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